Here are three reasons why men see you only as a hookup
Reason #1. You don’t communicate clearly.
If you started as a hookup with a guy and along the way you developed feelings for him, it’s important to tell him what you want. State, you are no longer interested in just a hookup but a relationship. Unless you communicate clearly from the word go, you are unintentionally telling him you are okay with only a connection.
Reason #2. Don’t give everything he wants
Men are interested in sex, and when you give it to him from the first day, he will not be involved in knowing more. Why commit when they can get anything they want without it.
Reason #3. You are always available when he needs you.
He texts or calls you at 2 am wondering what you are doing, and because you like him, you reply fast. You have never received a call from him around the afternoon just to know how you are doing. In simpler terms, you are his booty call.
Why Do I Attract Guys Who Just Want to Sleep with Me, aka “Sport Fishers?”
Sport fishers are a term given to frivolous men by Steve Harvey.
Men put women into two categories, the keeper and throwback. A keeper is a woman they can marry and will not approach her if they are not interested in long term relationships. Throwback is a woman they approach to have fun with for some time. It can be one week, a month, or even six months.
Read on to know why men see you as a throwback:
• You don’t know your priorities.
If he calls at seven and wants to pick you up at ten and leave everything to go out with him, he knows you are an easy woman to get to bed.
• He takes long days to call.
When you first meet and share a phone number, email, and it takes three days to call you, he’s just checking if you are available for him. Serious men call in 24 hours.
• Your dress code says a lot.
We are in the 21st century, and the dress code has changed over the years. Keeping your goodies exposed for all to see will attract men interested in your cookie jar. Cover your goodies well, and you will still be sexy.
Do Guys Catch Feelings after Hooking Up Casually?
Yes, many men get emotionally attached to their sex partners or friends with benefits. Women get automatically emotionally attached while it can take men a while before they can be emotionally connected with a hookup.
A study from Concordia University in Montreal shows that emotional attachment can grow from a sexual desire. The research shows many men fell in love with their hookup after a while. Most men indicated the more the conversation they had and the time they spent in their bedrooms drew them closer even though they had stated they were in for fun from the word go.
Simple Ways on How to Tell if a Guy Wants a Relationship or Just a Hookup
You have just met a guy, and everything seems to be going well, but you are not sure if he wants to be in a serious relationship or just sex.
Here are the signs to watch out:
• How much does he share with you
If a man is genuinely interested in dating you, he will share his life, plans, family, and friends more. If he speaks less about his life and you have never met any of his friends or family, it’s a red flag; he is just enjoying sex.
• He doesn’t try to know more about you.
When a man is genuine to you, he will ask lots of questions, like your plans, family, and friends. He will want to be there when you need emotional assistance and request the same from you.